The aftermath Of Aida’s Tragic Loss
Frank Maloney, MBA, CPCC on August 25th, 2009
Four days after my arrival in California to join my girlfriend Aida and the kids, Raya and Rama the universe through a tragic curveball at our wonderful plans to build a life here.
Aida was incredibly healthy, vibrant and loving her new life in California. She awoke in the night of July 6th complaining of a huge headache within an hour she was in an ambulance off to the local hospital where she was declared brain dead due to an aneurism.
Apparently she had carried around a congenital weakness in her brain that could have gone at any time. My take is that her subconscious mind decided it was time to cross over and a condition to create that result was created, the subconscious is very powerful. Doctors rarely say, “we have no idea why she died.” We had her organs donated to other people who needed them via UCLA, Aida had said she wanted this. She was given a traditional Muslim burial in Toronto at the request of family and friends who helped raise the funds. Aida wanted to be cremated and sent over mountains by the ocean and we did this in California. As i threw ashes of some of her writing a butterfly emerged from the ashes…phoenix from the flames? who knows…
The kids were picked up by Aida’s ex-husband Wail and now live in Toronto.
We all handled it the best we could, the kids did the best. I have had a tough period but realized all of the incredible gifts of this terrible loss. It is the only way to stay positive, focus on the good.
What good? You may fairly ask this question as she was ripped away from us very quickly, unpredictably.
Here are the ones i have had to come up with to stay sane.
1. She died at the happiest she had ever been, in love and in a desert climate. How many people can say that.
2. Even when she was in human form Aida was always soaring in the clouds and had no fear of death and often wanted to cross over as she (and I) strongly believe in being nonphysical.
3. She gave the kids a shot at having their dad back and he has stepped up to take this responsability.
4. She could have languished in a coma or paralysis for months crushing the kids and I and bankrupting me. She never would have wanted that, she was a free as any bird ever.
5. She could have died driving with the kids as she was alays in lala land driving. The loss of Aida and both kids would have been much worse.
These are my thoughts shared with you at this time.
I will continue my journey here as that is what she wanted and what i want, i feel great here and want to build here. The climate, mountains, spirituality and people are perfect for me.
I will write more soon.
